Random Question of the Day
Monday, December 19, 2005
Oral Sex Part A:
Is having oral sex considered cheating?
Oral Sex Part B:
What if they give it to you, but you do not give it to them, are you still cheating?
My Take On It:
My answer to both questions is "HELL YEAH"!
It is not acceptable to be doing anything sexual with someone outside the relationship and it not be considered cheating as far as I'm concerned!
I am a very possessive person when it comes to my man and I don't want him to even think about oral sex with someone other than me and I will do the same.......
Well, at least I will not take any actions. I can't make any promises as far as not fantasizing about oral with some fine ass muthasucka!
Anyhoo, that's my take on it, what's yours?
P.S. I won't be able to respond until I get home from work. No blogging at the new gig :-(
We'll have another follow-up question soon!
This is Superstar Nic
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posted by Superstar Nic at 6:30 AM, | 
33 Comments:
Hell yeah, they are both cheating. Eating at the "Y" and giving Weenie Washes are both definately cheating. Oral sex is sex.
Now flirting on the other hand I don't consider cheating. I'm a flirt, but it's just because I like picking with folks. I don't see myself in any sort of relationship or trying for any sort of relationship with the person who I might flirt with. My husband knows and he doesn't care. He's not the jealous type. He knows I can't help myself and I doing it for entertainment.
Now flirting on the other hand I don't consider cheating. I'm a flirt, but it's just because I like picking with folks. I don't see myself in any sort of relationship or trying for any sort of relationship with the person who I might flirt with. My husband knows and he doesn't care. He's not the jealous type. He knows I can't help myself and I doing it for entertainment.
Oral sex is cheating because it is sex. Regardless if you are the receiver or the giver, it's cheating.
Flirting is something that can be done if the other person is comfortable with it.
Flirting is something that can be done if the other person is comfortable with it.
Uh, hell yes it's cheating even if you are just the receiver, that doesn't make it any better.
Flirting sometimes just comes naturally, depending on the person.
You should consider your mate's opinion. If he/she is cool with it, ok. If not, you should respect him/her and simma on down.
Flirting sometimes just comes naturally, depending on the person.
You should consider your mate's opinion. If he/she is cool with it, ok. If not, you should respect him/her and simma on down.
Part A: Yep, it's cheating to me.
Part B: That sounds like some Bill Clinton type cheating but it's still cheating.
Bottom line, it comes down to the boundaries defined and agreed upon in your relationship. If you think phone boning is cheating it's cheating. If you think flirting is cheating, it's cheating. There really is no wrong answer.
Part B: That sounds like some Bill Clinton type cheating but it's still cheating.
Bottom line, it comes down to the boundaries defined and agreed upon in your relationship. If you think phone boning is cheating it's cheating. If you think flirting is cheating, it's cheating. There really is no wrong answer.
i'm with everyone else ALL of it is cheating
I'm with Jacque!
Unless we talking prostitutes, I'd be more concerned with the emotional interaction between the two which lead up to them being able to do this. Shoo, how many people do you JUST meet and either give or get "brain" from, huh? Must have been something brewing for a minute there...
Any bodily fluids that are being passed from one individual to the other is cheating.
That's my take...kinda simple but effective.
Thanks for stopping by my spot Ms. N...come again soon.....
That's my take...kinda simple but effective.
Thanks for stopping by my spot Ms. N...come again soon.....
ITS NOT CHEATING, PEOPLE!
just kidding.
just kidding.
Eatin' ain't cheatin'. Period.
KZ
KZ
IT IS CHEATING.... No man and women who have a relationship with someone (ELES) should be alone. this includes "luches" and phone calls. Cheating is more that pysical. A large part of it is mental.
I think you need to have MAry's video on tomorrow - the actual release date. I kept your blog on all day to hear the song. OVER AND OVER - I think my coworkers are feeling it - it has played for the last 6 of my 8 hours. HAHAHA no joke, and yes, it it cheating. I don't eat or drink behind people and I damn sho' don;t want lips that were close to another ass - mine okay, but another HELL NO!!!
Dirty ass moth^%$*^&(^
Me, hey Nic
Dirty ass moth^%$*^&(^
Me, hey Nic
if you can't tell your significant other about what you did with the other person cuz you know it'll hurt his or her feelings and he or she will feel betrayed, then it's cheating. that is, of course, unless you've got a crazy jealous spouse who thinks looking at someone platonically is cheating.
in other words, if your private parts are involved, it's cheating.
in other words, if your private parts are involved, it's cheating.
@ Mwabi – I feel ya! But I can forgive flirting the oral, hmmmmm, I don’t know about that one!
@ Shawn & Laa Laa – I completely agree with you. I can’t help myself with the flirting either. I’m just a naturally talkative and friendly person. Flirting just flows so naturally when I’m talking to some me.
@ Crazy WG – I don’t know how my mate would react to me flirting, he’s never around when it happens. Some how I have a feeling that he may not like it.
@ Freak D – You’re right! There is no wrong answer. It just depends on the ‘rules’ that have been established within the relationship. Great point!!
@ Shawn & Laa Laa – I completely agree with you. I can’t help myself with the flirting either. I’m just a naturally talkative and friendly person. Flirting just flows so naturally when I’m talking to some me.
@ Crazy WG – I don’t know how my mate would react to me flirting, he’s never around when it happens. Some how I have a feeling that he may not like it.
@ Freak D – You’re right! There is no wrong answer. It just depends on the ‘rules’ that have been established within the relationship. Great point!!
@ Charles X – Okay! You got me, LOL
@ GP, Jacque, Koolbreeze, Rell, Alli-Babe – I agree witcha!
@ Big Trev – You bring up another very good point. That mental connection is a mutha!
@ ddsprncs – Yeah I agree with the mental part of it. Freaky D also brought up that point.
@ Me – The video will still be playing tomorrow. I love that song!
@ GP, Jacque, Koolbreeze, Rell, Alli-Babe – I agree witcha!
@ Big Trev – You bring up another very good point. That mental connection is a mutha!
@ ddsprncs – Yeah I agree with the mental part of it. Freaky D also brought up that point.
@ Me – The video will still be playing tomorrow. I love that song!
@ Dee – I don’t like the idea of emotional relationships either. I think that’s a great question for another day, but since I’m already on the subject, those emotions tend to lead to other things, like LOVE, then that love leads to other stuff!
@ Nikki – LOL…yes some of these pychos do flip out over the least little thing, hahaha!
@ BossMack – I hear ya talking about those sound effects, LOL. I know some guys that feel that same way, but I can’t say that I agree.
@ Zed – I had to save you for last homie! Now of course, why am I not surprised that you disagree??? Hahahaha
I think Serial probably would agree with you. What yall think?
@ Nikki – LOL…yes some of these pychos do flip out over the least little thing, hahaha!
@ BossMack – I hear ya talking about those sound effects, LOL. I know some guys that feel that same way, but I can’t say that I agree.
@ Zed – I had to save you for last homie! Now of course, why am I not surprised that you disagree??? Hahahaha
I think Serial probably would agree with you. What yall think?
That is definitely some cheatin'. To me, your man even kissing another woman is cheating...
@ LadyLee - I agree, but I'd be VERY pissed over the kissing, but I might be able to forgive him depending on how strong out relationship is at the time, meaning are we already on shaky grounds any way or whatever.
@ GP - LOL, girl yes the Boss is a damn trip. I had to laugh at that one to. I was on the phone and I even read it out loud to my sister so that she could laugh to. He ain't lying tho', nikkas like that shyt!
@ GP - LOL, girl yes the Boss is a damn trip. I had to laugh at that one to. I was on the phone and I even read it out loud to my sister so that she could laugh to. He ain't lying tho', nikkas like that shyt!
Man, y'all clownin' up in heah!!! lmao!! But yeah I think it's cheatin' if I let somebody other than my honey get his lick on--and vice versa. The panty hamster don't need to be SHARED.
*smh* lolol
*smh* lolol
@ One Cool Sista - The panty hamster, hahahaha!
Now I haven't heard that one before, LOL.
Now I haven't heard that one before, LOL.
ok I'm laughing cause I know you were going thru withdrawl today :)
I know you got home and couldn't get to your computer fast enuff!
Blogging is the new crack!
I know you got home and couldn't get to your computer fast enuff!
Blogging is the new crack!
@ Mwabi
Girl yes!! Blogging is the new crack for me. I was dying at work, LOL. I could not wait to get home to check the comments.
This new job is pure torture with all of their restrictions dammit!!!
Girl yes!! Blogging is the new crack for me. I was dying at work, LOL. I could not wait to get home to check the comments.
This new job is pure torture with all of their restrictions dammit!!!
Ok, as a reformed cheater...YES I SAID IT...I USED TO CHEAT DAMMIT...but I was never any good at it...I kept getting busted! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
To answer both questions, yeah I guess it's cheating...dammit...lol...shhhhh don't tell nobody ok? HAHAHAHA
To answer both questions, yeah I guess it's cheating...dammit...lol...shhhhh don't tell nobody ok? HAHAHAHA
@ Tam - Girl you are hilarious! LOL
I've done it before to, so I guess I'm a reformed cheater as well, hahaha
I've done it before to, so I guess I'm a reformed cheater as well, hahaha
The only person being cheated is the giver of oral pleasures.
Oh yeah...Cheaters never prosper. They only get a nut off. lol
Oh yeah...Cheaters never prosper. They only get a nut off. lol
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Okay so I am mad late, but I draw the line at sharing bodily fluids
...so, kiss on the cheek, hug, holding hands? NOT CHEATING
...but, tongue kissing, sucking nipples, giving/getting head? CHEATING
Emotional cheating without anything else is very hard to quantify. And what about when a dude is too close with his male friends...not DL necessarily, but is always out playing ball or bowling or poker at the strip club and wont come home...is that cheating???
I only cheat when I have to.(when he ignores me, when the sex is bad, or when Im pissed off because he is ignoring me and/or the sex is bad) LOL
...so, kiss on the cheek, hug, holding hands? NOT CHEATING
...but, tongue kissing, sucking nipples, giving/getting head? CHEATING
Emotional cheating without anything else is very hard to quantify. And what about when a dude is too close with his male friends...not DL necessarily, but is always out playing ball or bowling or poker at the strip club and wont come home...is that cheating???
I only cheat when I have to.(when he ignores me, when the sex is bad, or when Im pissed off because he is ignoring me and/or the sex is bad) LOL
well you know me, I have a different take on it, but I think for those who have chosen to be in a monogamous relationship, then it is 'cheating'.
I agree with chezniki, haha, in that if the sex is bad, you must go somewhere else. You can't have GREAT sex ALL of the time. So you must supplement every once in awhile... I'm not saying whore yourself around, but if you have that ONE someone....
I agree with chezniki, haha, in that if the sex is bad, you must go somewhere else. You can't have GREAT sex ALL of the time. So you must supplement every once in awhile... I'm not saying whore yourself around, but if you have that ONE someone....
@ Serial - LOL, I figured you would have a slighly different take on this one, hahaha. I think BOTH are cheating. You say only the GIVER, and I believe that quite a few people would agree with you on that one.
@ Niki - You could never be late on my blog. I welcome comments at anytime honey! I agree with you on the fluid thing to. LOL@ "I only cheat when I have to"....Girl you are a trip, LOL
@ Meljoy - I agree with you to on that if you have chosen to be in a monogamous relationship, then it is 'cheating'. If you have an open relationship, then that's different. You bring up a good point!
@ Niki - You could never be late on my blog. I welcome comments at anytime honey! I agree with you on the fluid thing to. LOL@ "I only cheat when I have to"....Girl you are a trip, LOL
@ Meljoy - I agree with you to on that if you have chosen to be in a monogamous relationship, then it is 'cheating'. If you have an open relationship, then that's different. You bring up a good point!
Yes, i consider it cheating
I feel ya it is cheating....I mean we can talk about it and work something out if the guy likes it and I won't do it....but getting it from somewhere else is not cool
I see that we have agreement from all of the ladies!
But it is cheating..when it comes down to it even flirting is cheating - you putting yourself out there.