I Got The Bluez

Monday, February 20, 2006

EDITED @ 9:12pm on 2/21/2006


I don't know how in the world I forgot to mention this when I orginally published this post last night, but on top of everything else that has been bothering me, a friend and former classmate (grad school and under grad at FAMU) of mine did not show up to work on February 3, 2006 and has not been seen or heard from since! This is extremely disturbing to me (to say the least).

She is a 30 y/o black female who about 5'6 and is four months pregnant. Her name is Ali Lisha Gilmore. She and her husband are separated, but they were trying to work it out last I heard. I saw her a month ago and she is very visibly pregnant. I pray that nothing has happened to her.

If anyone knows of Ali Gilmore’s whereabouts please contact the Tallahassee Police Department at 850-891-4200 or call Crimestoppers at 850-891-HELP (4357).

For more details regarding Ali, please click here.

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This past week has been a very difficult one for me. I have been so down that I did not want to even write about it.

Writing about my feelings gives me entirely too much time to focus and concentrate on them, so for the past week I’ve avoided this.

Those that know me know that I spend a great deal of time talking on the phone. Speaking with my five sisters, all of whom I am extremely close to, takes up most of that telephone time because on any given day I speak to at least 3 of them if not more and even then, sometimes we speak more than once a day. I have two that live here in town with me and the other three live in other areas through the southeast.

At any rate, I received more than my fair share of devastating news via the telephone last week. The first came the morning of Valentines Day (last Tuesday). I receive a call from one of my sisters with news that was GREAT for her. She was calling to tell me that she had just gotten a job in South Florida w/a significant salary increase. Selfishly I was less than excited. I cried and cried when I got off the phone with her.

Its not that I was not happy for her because this is a wonderful opportunity, it’s that I cannot believe that after all these years she is moving 5 hours away from me. She is like my ‘ride or die’ sister. That someone that I can always count on to be there for me and now she is leaving.

What am I going to do without her?

My feelings are mixed because I'm happy for her, but sad for me ;-(

People who know me, know how crazy I am about my sisters. I can’t even express to you how much I am going to miss her and how sad I am about this. I knew that she would not live here forever, but I guess I was just not ready to hear her say that she was leaving. But on the other hand, would I ever be?

Later that same day, I received a call from one of my other sisters telling me that my cousin has just found out that they have cancer. This was the icing on the crumbling cake.

After all of that, I consider this past Valentines Day the worst ever. Needless to say, I was in no mood to celebrate!

On this past Thursday I received another call. This time the person that I am seeing called to tell me that his sister was in the hospital because she had just had an aneurysm.

I thought to myself, “WTF else is going to go wrong”?

Man, I have truly had the blues. In addition to all of that, my dissertation chair will not return my phone calls or my emails. I have been trying to get in touch with him for a month and I’ve had no luck! I was rushing to finish my PowerPoint presentation so that I could defend my proposal. Now that I have I can’t even get him to schedule it. That has me very discouraged about school.

Then my diet and exercise program has been a complete bust!!!

I have not lost a fricking ounce (all my fault) and I have not been keeping up with my exercise. I know that the exercise will help with my mood, but I have been in such a slump lately, I don’t have the energy or drive to get it done.

I’m telling you, it sucks to be me!!!


This is Superstar Nic
So Far Away from Ecstasy and I'm out!
"If you see someone without a smile today, give them one of yours!"
 
posted by Superstar Nic at 6:20 PM, |

36 Comments:

Sorry to hear you're still down. Bad news tend to come in threes so hopefully your quota has been filled for the immediate future.

Here's a joke for you.

An 80 year old woman was arrested for shoplifting. When she went before the judge he asked her, "What did you steal?"

She replied: "A can of peaches."

The judge asked her why she had stolen them and she replied that she was hungry. The judge then asked her how many peaches were in the can.

She replied, "Six."

The judge then said, "I will give you six days in jail then."

Before the judge could actually pronounce the punishment the woman's husband spoke up and asked the judge if he could say something.

The judge said, "What is it?"

The husband said, "She also stole a can of peas."

Cheer up or I'll be back with more corny jokes.
OK, I'll admit I've been reading the blog and all, but I might've missed that you were in Florida. What part? If you're near St. Pete, I'll be your new friend. I need a drinking buddy/movie buddy anyway.

And yeah, get better before you get more corny jokes... lol
Freaky LOL, thanks a million. I truly appreciate the corny joke. I'm still smiling from it so that's good!

M-Dubb I wish I was near St. Pete. Shoot, my sister will be moving near that area. I need a drinking buddy/movie buddy to (especially now)!!!
I can understand how you feel, and it makes alot of sense to me. I try to think of each day as one day. If I have a sad, bad or trying day, I hope the I can find the strength the next morning to move on. Sometimes it takes a day or two, or even a week, but soon I know I will find the power to press forward. I hope you, too, find it soon.

~Deb
Thanks Dr. Deb! Taking it one day at a time sounds like the best thing for me to do right now. I'm praying and fighting for the will to continue pressing forward.
I have a corny joke!

A little girl was asked to spell the work Nachos. She spelled it correctly N-a-c-h-o-s. She was then asked to use it in a sentence. She said "These are nachos shoes they're mine"...LOL. No joke sucks worse than that one.

I don't have much advice, because I'm in the dumps myself. At least you have a clue why. Here's a ((((hug)))). I'm coming to Florida next week, but I'll be in St. Pete!
*more cyber love for you*

Hey Nic, a man walks into a bar.........Ouch!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAHAHAHA!

Doesn't get no cornier than that!
SENDS THE BIGGEST HUGS I CAN HIT IN THIS COMMENT TO YOU. I KNOW IT'S HARD WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE MOVES AWAY. YOU WILL BE FINE WE ARE HERE FOR YOU.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
You always say if you see someone without a smile today give them one of yours....So I'm lending you one my smiles

:-D

*smooches*
Hugs. Big hugs. I hope you are feeling better.
I'm sorry to hear that you are down. I hope things get better for you.
  At 2/21/2006 9:02 AM Anonymous Anonymous said:
Hey Nic...sorry you are down...I guess God gave me this post for you....were you the reason I been up since 3:30 ((hug)) happy reading http://mznewagenda.blog-city.com/yellow_spots.htm
first, while these situations suck, they will be for your betterment in the long run (it always is) :-) you'll be surprised at how well you handle these things once you adjust to them-they r just tests, believe me, my whole 2005 was kinda like that but it didnt last forever-Let Go, Let Flow
  At 2/21/2006 9:12 AM Anonymous Anonymous said:
Nic- I know how close you are to your sisters and although your sister is moving to another city, look at it as a reason for getting out of town for no reason other than fun, fun, fun! Hey you're a traveling woman now, so 5 hours won't be that bad to travel and get a little shopping in with your sister and catch up on each other's life...not work, just play...doesn't that sound fun!!! Cheer up girl, things will get better! I've been in the dumps too, not sure why, but I feel better today!
Chocolate Drop
aww baby cakes...hugs to you!!! dem dissertation people gon make us in blogland go jump them!!!

*I got nothing just wanted you to smile*

Thinking bout you :)
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but whenever I get down I always think about it this way to keep my perspective.

You've got a job, a man who loves you, health, a sister (s) to actually care about, a place to sleep, food on the table, family to actually care about and a support system for times such as this.

Compare this with a lot of people, who are without a few of those things or ALL of those things.

I know when I do that it helps me realize taht no matter how bad it is for me, it's prolly 18x worse for someone right down the street.

that's just me though...
Aww Nic, you poor thing! I wish I could be there to give you a REAL hug but this is the best I can do for now {{{{Nic}}}}

Your sis may be moving 5 hours away but it aint nuttin Ma Bell and the friendly skies can't handle. Be happy for your sis and share her joy. Just think of it this way, now you have some place new to visit when you need a vacation. (smile)

I know first hand how difficult it is for a family dealing with cancer. It's ok to cry, shoot cry as much as you want. But also know that the person is relying on you for strength. My grandma's strength and bubbly personality is what allowed her to stay with us for 10 more years AFTER her diagnosis, and those were the best years of her life that I can remember.

Pray for your "future sister in-law's" speedy recovery.

Perhaps your dissertation chair needs a personal house call. I'm with Mwabi, don't make us hafta come ova there! You know we got yo back!

Get betta sis. We luv you!
Awwww, Nic! Your sisters will always be there for you. I know you are close to them, but this doesn't mean that you will no longer be close. It just means that now you got to travel to see them. I bet that will make you even closer! Cheer up girl. At least you got all your sisters and they are healthy. Look at the bright side of all of this.
Oh Nic, I am so sorry that you're blue... But just be thankful girl, that you and your sisters are so close and strife-free... pray for your cousin (I will too), and even though you can't get your proposal defense scheduled... girl, at least the presentation is finished and ready to go...

You'll be just fine, hon!
Shawn LOL, the joke was actually kinda funny to my silly butt! I’m sorry you got the blues to. Have a safe trip next week.

Lady Nay thanks! You are too crazy!

Stone thanks so much!

Trina that’s sweet. Thank you.

ShawnMonique thank you so much!

Accomplice yes call me or I’ll call you. Happy Early Birthday to you. Tomorrow is your big day!!!

Luvin Me I hope that it gets better to. Thanks!

MzNewAgenda thanks! I’ll be sure to check it in a few.

Miss A I hope that I pass this test with flying colors. AND VERY SOON!

Chocolate Drop that’s good that you are feeling better. Thanks!

Mwabi thanks and you did make me smile!

Rell you are right. I have so much to be thankful for and I am truly blessed. It just gets hard sometimes. Thanks for putting it into perspective.

Insanelysane you are absolutely right, cause it could certainly be a lot worse. Like you said, she is alive and well so I need to cherish the blessing!

Nay Nay I will be so glad when my storm is over, but I know that he WILL bring me through it.

Singlemom thanks for the kind words. I do appreciate it! That is a wonderful thought that now I will have a new place to visit when I need a vacation (smile). If that dissertation chair keeping messing with me he WILL BE GETTING AN UNANNOUNCED HOUSE CALL!!!

Cool AC thanks. You’re right, there is a brighter side to all of this.

LadyLee Thanks! What you said is true. I have a lot to be VERY thankful for.
MyTruth - These are beautiful words of wisdom! Thanks
Chin up chic.... U look much cuter that way...
Peace
Bk
Brooklyn Babe thanks so much much. Now that really made me smile!
I know how you feel. I pray that they find your missing friend. I don't know if you are a praying woman but I know this God does answers prayers. I try to rely on this: I love that footprints poem. When your burdens get to heavy for you to walk, God will pick you up and carry you. Be bless my blogging friend...By the way you and your sister will talk as much when she moves.
Oh, I am sorry to hear of all of your bad news. And to top it off, I saw your most recent post. All I can do is pray for you. Hang in there, sweetie.

I am down as well.
  At 2/22/2006 11:24 AM Anonymous Anonymous said:
I hope things work out for you!What is the name of that song that Yolanda ADAMS is singing?
I truly hope your co-worker is found and alive.
sorry!
Thanks for all the encouragement everyone!

The name of the song by Yolanda Adams is "Never Give Up".
rell said it best, n. try to hold onto the positive perspective. it's there so you've got something to hug when you get down. consider it your security blanket.

that said, everyone gets down sometimes. the key is to make sure you get up.
Thanks Nikki!
gurl I just came back to check on you and now news about your friend :(

She is in my thoughts. This should be getting national attention like the Laci's of the world...don't get me started.

Smile :)
It's all gonna work out....
cliche'd tho it is, somehow it always works out.
We keep living, we smile, we laugh, we hurt, we heal.

Be encouraged (even tho I'm late)
Thanks Mwabi and Diamonds!

I'm trying to stay positive and think about all the blessing that I have, but it is so hard to think positive when you are not happy.

I'm having my ups and downs, but I'm definitely working on feeling better.

The police still have no leads on the disappearance of Ali and now they suspect foul play. That just really hurts me to think that something awful may have happed to her.
I can totally relate, i am feeling the same way right now, but prolly in a diff way than you are...
****hug****
Bad news does come in three's.

I know you just want what is best for your sister. But it is still hard.

Have they heard anything about your co-worker??? SAD!
tj